Forbidden boundaries of sex

TRESPASSING BARRIERS AND MARRIAGE TROUBLE

“In the beginning it was not so … For this reason (marriage) a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife”.

A lot of marriage troubles emanate where barriers are broken. Let us see some of the forbidden boundaries of sex.

Except when properly married first:

1). No single man and a single woman (even if virgins) should have sex;

2). No single man and a widow should have sex with each other except the bride price is settled. (though traditional bride price varies from one tribal region or ethnic group to another. However, marriage is designed to be with parental consent as official/authentic release of both persons who intend to marry;

3). No single lady should have sex with a widower, and vice versa;

4). No widower should sleep with any widow;

5). No single man/single woman takes a divorcee to bed, and vice versa;

6). No male divorcee sleeps with a female divorcee;

7). No man takes any woman to marriage registry for marriage declaration, while they ignore dowry payment. Government’s marriage is not God’s marriage. And it does not have the power to sidetrack tradition, which is truly the original marriage;

8). No man/woman having a court case of divorce that is ongoing should have an affair with a third party-boyfriend or girlfriend. How can a man/woman be telling his/her girlfriend/boyfriend with whom he/she is having an affair, ‘Very soon the divorce will be through, and then we’ll get married.’ I always wonder why many ladies would still want to stick their necks unto this hangman noose? Will this lady, with whom this playboy has had his fill of love be able to stop womanizing if he finally divorces his wife and marries her?;

9). No man should have any sexual affair with another man’s wife;

10).No man or woman sleeps with any animal, etc.

11).No married man or a married woman sleeps with his or her family members/In-laws;

12).No single persons should sleep with his or her siblings.

Many People Are Living At The Risk Of Hell
Abandoned! No More Bride Price: There are many cases of women, who had children outside of wedlock and whose hope of being properly married traditionally had been dashed, by the same man who intended marrying them. This usually happens when some form of strife constantly occurs, and/or the potential husband is influenced otherwise to feel no obligation to pay her bride price; and especially sometimes when he is in a secret relationship with another lady who seemed not to give him any stress. And for some, lack of adequate finances has hindered such partners who are cohabiting with each to fulfil their traditional marriage rites.

CASE REFERENCE:

Multiple Sex Partners
I want to draw an incident from the book of John chapter four. Jesus told the woman who came to fetch water at the well of Samaria, “Go call your husband, and come here.” And she replied, “I have no husband. When Jesus heard this, He said to her “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband” (Vs 16, 17).

Wow! This woman had been living pleasurably at the risk of not truly being married to any of the six men that cohabited with her. The Bible says, She who lives in pleasure is dead while she lives (1 Tim. 5:6 NKJV).

Such a person is spiritually dead. If fornication between two persons is an abomination before the Lord, and damnable in hell except there’s repentance, then sexual union with more than one partner, is much more terrible, and carries a more devastating consequences than the former. Remember, it is one man and one woman that are meant to come together to become one flesh. This is absolutely consummated by sex. This is how God ordained it to be from the beginning (Gen. 2:24).
One man with more than one woman, or one woman with more than one man fusing together is “one flesh” too many through forbidden sexual intercourse, leading to great confusion of multiple soul ties. It is evil and totally against God’s covenant relationship of one flesh. Any sexual relationship that violates God’s order for the ethics of marriage, will always attract God’s judgement, except there’s full repentance.

Matthew  19:4-“And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,  19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?”

Hebrews  13:4-“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

Written by Pastor Christopher Ikebuwa